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Comment on I’m totally never talking to you again by mizalix

mizalix — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:53:31 +0000

So this may sound familiar, but I know that I always get myself in trouble with “black and white thinking;” words like always and never are bound to set me up for failure. And often when I make a proclamation about something it’s because I feel like typing it/saying it out loud makes it real, when I’m starting to believe that it’s only real once I take the action. (and this, as you know, is coming from someone that needs to TALK IT OUT about nearly everything.)

I’m also seeing that the shame spiral I create when I try to strong-arm some facet of my character into changing, and then punish myself to extremes in the opposite direction when it doesn’t, does me no favors. So I’m trying to focus on the middle path- hoping and working toward better things, and being kind to myself when I fall short.

(some days are better than others)

Comment on I’m totally never talking to you again by Windsor Grace

Windsor Grace — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 18:15:21 +0000

I heart you :)

Comment on I’m totally never talking to you again by Little Big

Little Big — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 18:14:26 +0000

Oh hell yes. I am forever trying to get my life together. And falling short. But the point is, KEEP GOING, KEEP TRYING.

Comment on I’m totally never talking to you again by kai technolust

kai technolust — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:18:58 +0000

Mr. Spock with the pointy ears was a Vulcan… They suppressed all emotions. Or try to. You should watch the new JJ Abrams Star Trek movie it is for everyone, you don’t have to have seen any.of them to enjoy it.

Comment on I’m totally never talking to you again by Windsor Grace

Windsor Grace — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:05:45 +0000

You’re so right! I didn’t necessarily make a list for the smoking this time, on paper, but there were so many things. Maybe writing out an actual list will help me think more logically about things. Then I can actually see what the reasons for the changes are and not just have all of these things floating around in my head.

You have totally lost my with the Star Trek reference. So silly :)

Comment on I’m totally never talking to you again by kai technolust

kai technolust — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:01:54 +0000

Sounds like you need to set more short term realistic goals. “I’m never…” Goals are hard bc you never know what tomorrow brings. So you need to rationally think out WHY you don’t like a particular thing, how to best deal with it and how to change over time. This will help with sticking to them later. You’ll be able to pull out a list of logical reasons you want to achieve your goal and look at it to remind yourself to keep at it long after the initial emotions that sparked the proclamation have faded. There are 2 forces driving everyone. Emotion and logic. When you want to smoke but don’t bc you know it Is bad, logic wins. When you did the stop smoking thing you made a list of reasons you wanted to quit, at least on your blog I think, right? Do that with everything even if It’s a slip of paper you keep in your purse and pull out when needed.

Being an adult is like like being Vulcan. You have all these emotions but you jave to let logic win. Ok now that I worked a Star Trek reference in I will stop. ;)

Comment on It’s been so long it’s burning my eyes by Sonal

Sonal — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 17:10:47 +0000

Amen, sister! I am SO OVER this grey, grey, grey weather. It is depressing. Of course, this sunny day would be better if I weren’t stuck inside all day. Wah wah…

PS. We need to hang out soon.

Comment on Body Apocalypse by jeanknee

jeanknee — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 22:37:52 +0000

glad to see Chico is still inspiring haikus

Comment on Body Apocalypse by Lisa Exley

Lisa Exley — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 17:48:15 +0000

the way you think is very familiar to me…glad you went to the doctor to take care of it.

Comment on Chico Photo Dump by Windsor Grace

Windsor Grace — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 00:48:04 +0000

20lbs!!!! Omg

Sent from my iPhone, please excuse my typos :)