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Remember this? And how I have scars because yes, for years I cut myself. I have scars, really intense, embarrassing, bad scars. They’re really deep and obvious. I know they are there and I see them every day and most of the time, I wish they were gone. Sometimes, I’m proud of them. They’re battle wounds and I made it through. I made it.
The boy I’ve been seeing doesn’t seem to feel the same way. After spending a significant amount of time together this weekend, and it was lovely, we did a lot of things together and I even got to pet a donkey and a horse. Yippee. He sent me a text message 5 minutes after I left to tell me that he doesn’t think he can justify my scars to his kids, but he had a lovely time and I’m a great person………………(I need more dots for emphasis of ridiculousness). Are you fucking kidding me? Seriously? You don’t want to be with me because of my scars? Or that’s what you say? I know this is a cop out reason, but to tell me it’s because of something so personal and so dear to me. I had to force myself to love every single scar and become okay with them. I feel like I was just side swiped by a semi. I know, I know, good riddance. But, it’s not like that. I feel afraid now. What if no one ever loves me through the scars?
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August 1, 2011 at 10:50 am
sizzle
I’m so sorry this happened. It says so much more about him than about you. But still, knowing that doesn’t remove the sting. There is someone (many someones!) who understand the scars and would never reject you for them. Big hug.
August 1, 2011 at 12:18 pm
Windsor Grace
Thanks. It’s just shocking to me that someone dated me for a month and we had the whole relationship conversation and everything was going so perfectly and then this out of the blue.
August 1, 2011 at 10:52 am
Jeanette
I would love to give u a BIG HUG right now!!
Please, remember this, everyone in this imperfect world has scars….some people can just hide them better than others!
<3 @lefrumpette
August 1, 2011 at 12:16 pm
Windsor Grace
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!
August 2, 2011 at 1:54 am
kara
To answer your last question: someone will.
And that dude sounds like an asshat who hasn’t dealt with his own issues and therefore needs to make someone else feel bad instead. Keep your chin up girl.
August 2, 2011 at 10:02 am
Windsor Grace
Kara, you rock!
August 20, 2011 at 3:13 pm
Kathlene Audette
I totally agree. And you’re better off without someone like that :)
August 2, 2011 at 2:16 am
iris ashley
it’s a shame that it had to end the way it did and that frankly he had to be a coward about it. someone will love you just the way you are, scars and all. some people aren’t afraid to face the fact that sometimes life is hard. sometimes it’s not pleasant, it’s not pretty, it’s not nice. instead of being proud of you for getting through a very difficult time (which i am btw), he’s going to hold it against you? boo him! does he plan on sheltering his kids for the rest of their lives?
December 29, 2011 at 10:51 am
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